Imagine you’re a thirteen year old boy. Alone. Scared. Alienated for something you can’t control or change. You’re crying, you’re depressed, you’re an emotional wreck… your only way out?… how about you’re looking at a belt and a closet?
Perhaps that sounds too much like a Hollywood drama.
Alright, how about this: Imagine you’re a 21-year-old college student who is robbed, pistol whipped, tortured, and tied to a fence. Hanging for 18 hours before being discovered only to die several days later.¹
or how about one more: You’re a 15-year-old kid who asked another boy to be his Valentine and because of that you’re shot in the back of the head during class and killed by that same boy.
These are not inventions of some mythical gay agenda to whip up sympathy from an unconvinced society for political means. These things happen. They are happening to our kids today. While the first scenario is an invention, it is not a far fetched one as we can see in our papers recently of the girl who was literally bullied and harassed to death because no one wanted to step in and take responsibility for the problem.
The other two actually happened. The first was Matthew Shepard, killed for simply revealing he was gay. The second was the events surrounding Lawrence King’s death.
These events are real and they’re tragic. As Ellen Degeneres stated on her show about Larry’s death:
“A boy has been killed and a number of lives have been ruined. And, somewhere along the line the killer, Brandon, got the message that it’s so threatening, so awful, and so horrific that Larry would want to be his Valentine — that killing Larry seemed to be the right thing to do. And when the message out there is so horrible that to be gay, you can get killed for it, we need to change the message.”²
One of the last things I am is what some in the community call a “gay-nazi”. I don’t yell and scream about gay marriage with a poster exclaiming “Give us our rights!” while draped in flannel with a crown of spiky hair outside of our courthouses or legislative buildings. (No offense to the flannel wearing spiky haired lesbian set.)
I learned to believe in making change through education and communication. Through expressing ideas by knowledge and enlightenment of the problem. I truly dislike many forms of “gay awareness” and “community activism”. Those social buzzwords make me want to vomit my stomach contents. Mainly because it’s not about the ideas expressed above but simply about throwing it in the worlds’ face and trying to force them to accept it. However, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with bringing attention to an issue through a passive, compassionate means. Especially when it addresses a problem that young gay people face.
This is the idea that greeted me this morning when I read a news report that had conservative family groups such as the American Family Institute are protesting public schools who were allowing students to take part in the awareness effort called “Day of Silence” affiliated with a gay and lesbian advocacy group. The idea is simply nothing more than students remaining silent all day in an effort to create awareness of the fact that gay and lesbian students are harassed and bullied to sometimes lethal extremes. This highlights the underlying issue that not only are they verbally and physically abused but that their voices go virtually unheard so often. Sometimes resulting in the most horrifying outcome: death.
Yet, some “conservative family organizations” believe that this is, “is a disruptive waste of taxpayer dollars and a reason to keep kids out of school.” They also go on to say that, “Obviously this is intended to make an impact on the educational environment — otherwise they wouldn’t be doing it at school.”
I don’t think you could find any more densely argued ideas in two sentences than you find in those two right there. I think the summation of those two sentences go without follow-up. They speak for themselves about the hardlined fear and willful ignorance these “family groups” fanatically hold on to in order to maintain some illusion of being “safe” from those awful gays.
YES, OBVIOUSLY they ARE intended to make an impact on the educational environment!! That’s exactly where the problems lie! Getting the word out after hours or off-campus as critics suggest should be done doesn’t expose the root and source of the problem and doesn’t target it. These bullies and murderers come from your families! You’re mentality toward gays and lesbians and where they fit into society is bled into your kids and your kids take it right to school where the ideology manifests itself into your children believing that they are superior to other children and have an innate right to harass and degrade those they see as wrong-minded and different.
A disruptive (disruptive? Silence!) waste of taxpayers money and a reason to keep kids out of school. I don’t remember the last time I heard that silence was in any way disruptive. If anything I think we should institute more “days of silence” on our kids. Can you imagine the pervading din of silence that would fall over the land if we could just get kids to shut up for a day? Ironically the solution posed by the critic to pull kids out of school is the very idea of disruption and waste of taxpayers dollars. So because you think the idea is a disruptive waste of taxpayers money you’re going to cause a bigger disruption and waste of taxpayers money and pull your kids out of school.
The only thing I really worry about is that these people can breed and they make more little people who think just like them. Hopefully, the ones who can breed and who do allow their kids to remain will retain a hold of the majority of reproductive society and thus we can see an end to the ideas that because someone is gay or lesbian it’s okay to pick on them, harass them and beat them. Someday that might just be as antiquated as the ideas they’re reading about in those books their learning from.
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1.) Wikipedia entry for Matthew Shepard-http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Matthew_Shepard
2.) Ellen Degeneres Show transcript 2/29/2008

